On symbolic language and personal metaphors

 “There seem to be only two kinds of people:
Those who think that metaphors are facts,
and those who know that they are not facts.
…Which group really gets the message?”

~Joseph Campbell~

I am extremely comfortable with metaphor. Not just as a Tarot reader but also as someone who spends a lot of time in the theatre, exploring subtext to illuminate collective truths is what I live to do. Presenting universal concepts through symbols and fantastical imagery is my jam. I love uncovering repressed wishes, recognizing – sometimes donning – archetypal masks, and revealing universal struggles. But sometimes I forget that not everyone expects metaphor when approaching the Tarot (or dream interpretation or astrology…or theatre, for that matter).

A lot of people are drawn to Tarot readings or astrology or dream interpretation for prognostication, wanting a clear definitive answer to a troubling question. Note that I didn’t say “solution” as that implies personal participation in the outcome. Honestly, many folk just want to hear that everything is going to work out in their favor without any effort on their part. They want to be told that the pictures on the Tarot cards or the stars in the sky or images in dreams guarantee a simply translatable, specific, certain conclusion.

That is an understandable impulse, but it doesn’t work that way. That kind of expectation leaves you powerless to fate, to others, to invisible forces (including your crippling fears and doubts and previous disappointments). To use a metaphor: it leaves you in the role of the helpless princess waiting to be rescued by some prince of destiny.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious,
it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

~Carl Jung~

I was recently asked to do some dream interpretation readings as part of a fundraiser for one of my favorite Los Angeles theatres. I was surprised when some fellow thespians – metaphor professionals – seemed to fall into the familiar trap regarding symbology. “What does a jaw mean? I’ve had a bunch of dreams about my jaw.” “I don’t want to know what all the tornadoes mean, because it’s probably really bad.” “Isn’t it always about sex anyway?”

When it comes to interpreting visual imagery in dreams or cards, the process is personal and requires dialogue. There is no decoder ring that unlocks symbolic meaning. While the symbols in dreams and cards can be universal – like cigars, or dragons, or caves, or angels – what they represent from person to person is individual and must be interpreted in context.

I’ll use an example: behold the raspberry. A bright summer fruit enjoyed in desserts or cocktails, it may remind many folks of the simple sweetness of summertime. If offered in a dream, it could easily represent a delicious option, a sensual opportunity, etc. However, I have a very different reaction to raspberries. When I was growing up, there was a yearly Raspberry festival in a nearby town, and as a member of the marching band I had to participate in the parade. This was at the height of summer, our marching uniform was ridiculously heavy, and we marched for miles (it seemed). At the end of the parade, I was exhausted, sweaty, crampy, sunburned, and sticky with raspberry guts. Any raspberry that appears in my dream is likely to represent something deceptively sweet that comes with a cost or physical labor. That’s the difference personal context makes in interpretation.

The Lovers from the Aquarian Tarot

The Lovers from the Aquarian Tarot

And how about a Tarot example: the Lovers Tarot card. Of course it’s one of the cards most clients hope to manifest, but it doesn’t necessarily mean romantic love or even sexy times. At its essence, it’s about contracts. It’s about being clear about who you are and what you want and what you are willing to share for the benefits of the contract. And sometimes it means being clear about what is not included in the contract, too. It means setting terms and sticking to them for the mutual benefit of all parties involved. For some folks, this card will represent setting boundaries in romantic relationships. But once this card came up in a consultation with a client who was trying to negotiate some issues with a manager, and once it was even appropriate to describe a divorce settlement.

“If you want to change the world, you have to change the metaphor.”

~Joseph Campbell~

Can you believe: I’ve never had a single client who was satisfied with their life exactly as-is. Everyone is a work-in-progress, all my clients are on some kind of quest. Luckily, I find most folks attracted to my coaching style are eager to participate in their life. We can use the symbolic imagery of dreams to uncover your subconscious motivations or stumbling blocks. We can use the pictorial imagery of Tarot cards to make some choices about how to consciously move forward. We can work with the planets’ seasonal transits to embody the qualities of mythical characters represented in the stars. But let’s not accept passive prognostications. Let’s not wait around for life to happen to us. Let’s not try to live someone’s fairy tale.

Your personal myth is waiting for you!

“You are the Hero of your own story.”

~Joseph Campbell~

Consider this: the Tower card on 9/11/11

The Tower from the Golden Tarot

When we are no longer able to change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves.

~Victor Frankl

Grief drives men in to habits of serious reflection,
sharpens the understanding, and softens the heart.

~ John Adams

The Tower from the Fenestra Tarot

There are places in the heart that do not yet exist,
suffering has to enter in for them to come to be
.
~Leon Bloy

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
~Kahlil Gibran

The Tower from the Zerner Farber Tarot

 

One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often.
~ Erich Fromm

Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of overcoming it.
~Helen Keller

 

 

 

Change your thoughts and you change your world

 
Advice from the Eight of Swords…
 

The Eight of Swords from the Golden Tarot

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind.
~Bob Marley

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
~George Bernard Shaw

All that we are is the result of what we have thought.
~Buddha

Change your thoughts and you change your world.
~Norman Vincent Peale

You are today where your thoughts have brought you, you will be tomorrow where your thoughts will bring you.
~James Allen

 

 

 

I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. ~Roy Croft

The Lovers from the Aquarian Tarot

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person
is essential to your own.  ~Robert Heinlein

 

The Lovers from the Fenestra Tarot

A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
~Thomas Carlyle

 

The Lovers from the Zerner Farber Tarot

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
~William Shakespeare

 

The Lovers card illuminates the choices we make in relationships.  There are other cards in the tarot deck that speak more to physical passions or romantic confessions – this card describes commitments and contracts.  It is the sober, thoughtful part of love.  It appears when it’s time to choose, when a union requires description and confirmation, when moving forward goes hand in hand with determining boundaries and affirming shared goals.  To a large extent, it describes Who You Are and Who You Can Be by Who You Choose.   It also limits alternative options and narrows your focus.   It’s The Talk, or The Proposal or The Nuptials. 

(And also note: in non-romantic situations, this card can describe any sort of contract – employment, professional union, amateur hobby association – anything you commit to that also helps to define and anchor you.)

“Doubt everything. Be your own light.” Buddha

The Hermit from the Golden Tarot

“Believe nothing, O monks, just because you have been told it, or it is commonly believed, or because it is traditional or because you yourselves have imagined it. Do not believe what your teacher tells you merely out of respect for the teacher. But whatsoever, after due examination and analysis, you find to be conducive to the good, the benefit, the welfare of all beings – that doctrine believe and cling to and take as your guide.”

Buddha (563 – 483 BC)

Image above from the Golden Tarot Deck.